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Lessons from the Softball Field

It’s been a few years but I am finally back to sitting on the sidelines watching my daughter play sports. Between my work, my school, my husband’s work and my daughter’s broken leg, we really haven’t been able to devote much time to sports. Now that our schedules are lighter and my daughter’s leg is completely healed, she is back out on the field.

I must say I missed seeing her have fun and learn how to work as part of a team. In addition, participating in sports allows my daughter to understand the importance of time management.  This is especially true in figuring out how to balance homework, practices and games!  She has also extended her circle of friends since she was able to play on an older team.  This is due to her date of birth relative to the cut-off for the specific age brackets. Not to mention, the exercise is good for her too!  Talk about the amount of transferable life lessons.

As I sit on the sidelines, I can truly say I am in awe. My daughter had not played in years and yet she put herself out there.  Softball was something she has always wanted to play and to start on an older team is tough.  She doesn’t remember much from her earlier team-sport experiences.  Plus, it was t-ball and nobody won or lost.  The age bracket she is currently on is child pitched and scores are kept.  Some of these kids have one heck of a pitch too!  But despite the newness of all of this, she shows up and she tries hard to learn what she can from the coaches and the other players.

After most games, the teams have a relay race around the bases.  It is a great way to end the game with everyone rooting each other on and getting out any remaining energy.  One day I sat there and cheered my daughter around the bases, I could see she was running her heart out.  She was towards the end of the lineup and her team had a slight lead over the visiting team.  As she rounded third heading home to tag the next runner, it happened.  In the blink of an eye, my daughter went from full sprint to a dead stop.  Her cleat got caught in a rut and she went down hard.  Face first with barely enough time to put up her hands.  The crowd went from loudly cheering to dead silence.  It was that kind of fall.

I fully expected her to lay on the ground crying and for her team to ultimately lose the relay.  But that is not at all what happened.  Instead, my daughter got right up and finished her leg of the relay.  At that point, you could tell she was holding back the tears and biting her bottom lip as the coach was assessing her for any injuries.   She ultimately did cry after all was said and done.  Despite the pain and some minor scrapes, there were no serious injuries from the fall.   Her team won the game that day but also the relay race.


How many times has this happened to you?  Not literally falling flat on your face, but figuratively.  Honestly there is such a profound lesson in this.  My daughter knew that she had people depending on her and that she needed to do her part and finish.  Despite the pain, she pushed through for her team when it would have been much easier just to stay down and cry.

Sometimes in family or work it is not about us.  Despite everything else, we must push through the pain, heart ache, difficulties and get to the finish line.  Whatever that may be- this is different for everyone.  Knowing that someone is depending on us, gives us a greater meaning and added responsibility.  This could be a child, a parent, a co-worker, a boss, a customer, etc.  I may pause to shed a tear or to eat a pint of ice cream but ultimately, I know that I too must push through because people are depending on me.  Whether we stumble with our children or loved ones or in our career, pushing through some of the difficult stuff will always make us a better person on the other end.

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Father’s Day Treat: Bourbon Pecan Pie

One thing I have noticed over the years.  There are cake people and there are pie people.  Well, my husband falls into the latter.  There isn’t a cake around that will tempt him to eat it.  However, put a pie in front of him and he will certainly take a bite!  Among his most favorite pie recipes to devour is my Bourbon Pecan Pie.  I have to admit it is one of my favorites too!  With Father’s Day coming up in a few weeks, there is no perfect time to break out my recipe and share it with you as I promised in my last blog (which can be read here).

This recipe is super easy to make and so super tasty you will wonder where its been your whole life! My hubs will often bring it to work and inevitably it does not last long.  Now, I will let you in on a little secret- I cannot make pie crust from scratch.  I know, I know-  I can hear the pie Gods cursing my name.  But it’s not for the lack of trying.  All butter, all lard, half butter half lard, hand held pastry blender, food processor, cold bowl, frozen bowl, cold counter, frozen butter, cold hands, etc.  I tried all the tips and tricks and still, I can never get the darn thing to roll out easily.

But not all is lost since there are some phenomenal commercial pie crusts available at the local grocery store.  I buy them all the time because as a working mom and wife, I do not have any interest in spinning my wheels on a crust.  Instead, I would rather concentrate on making the inside of the pie the tastiest it can be.  And that starts with some great quality Bourbon.

Now don’t worry about this being a Drunken Pecan Pie leading to drunken behavior.  Although not all the alcohol cooks off, using such a small amount spread out over the entirety of pie, will not cause any issues in that regards.  Only in the case of religious beliefs or allergies will this be a factor.  Choosing the right bourbon is the make the pie or break the pie kind of deal.  The important thing to remember when selecting a bourbon is its taste.  If it is a smooth sipping bourbon with lots of rich vanilla, oak and caramel undertones, then it is the perfect bourbon to use in this pie.

Some bourbons can be very expensive and if you do not typically drink bourbon it may not be worthwhile to purchase a full bottle to use just a few tablespoons.  Therefore, one budget idea is to ask a friend for a few tablespoons.  Often bourbon is part of most home bar set ups and many friends will not have a problem with donating a few tablespoons.  Especially if it means they may be the beneficiary of a piece of this pie!  Another budget idea is to peruse your local liquor store.  There are a few good quality bourbons available in the 50 mls ‘nip’ size.

Second of importance to the bourbon are the pecans.  Now, being from the Northeast, I pronounce it Pee-can.  Understandably, there are a few other regional ways to pronounce the word pecan.  Here is a link to a great article depicting the regional dialects of the pecan pronunciation.  Regardless of how you pronounce it, make sure you have a variety of pecan styles in the pie.

One mistake is to have all halves, all pieces or all whole.  Have a variety of chops to add to the texture and ‘meatiness’ of the pie.  I usually start with whole pecans.  I keep 1/3 whole, chop 1/3 into half sized pieces and the final third into small pieces.  You can use the whole pieces to decorate the top of the pie by laying them in a pattern before baking.  Again, as a working Mom, that is not on my priority list.  It will still taste the same with or without a fancy pecan pattern!

For the recipe, I am including it on a free download available below.

Bourbon Pecan Pie

I hope you consider giving this recipe a try and that you enjoy this recipe as much as me and my family do.

Leave me a comment below on how you pronounce pecan.


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Father’s Day: Planning Early

Every holiday poses a challenge for me.  Not only do I struggle with my time management around shopping and preparing, but I also often struggle with just the art of gift giving.  Especially for my husband.  You see, he is a very independent person who (although spoils the family) doesn’t really give any holiday much thought for himself.  This is true at Christmas, his Birthday, and also Father’s Day!  He never has any wishes or wants when it comes to gifting.
Do you know one of those people?  The type when you ask what they want and their answer is inevitably “nothing” or “I have everything I need”.  Although the latter may make some swoon, it gives me palpitations.   Not the ‘in love’ cutesy palpitations but the kind that leave you freaking out.  You see, I am one of those who want to give a gift and acknowledge the person.  Furthermore, I want the gift to be something they desire and deserve.
The ultimate irony of this whole thing is that every time I do get an idea of what I want to get him, he comes home with it! Yep.
Every.
Single.
Time.
There was the ice fishing shack incident, the trail cam incident, the latest movie incident, and the various tool incidents.  I now just assume he somehow reads my mind and right when I am about to purchase something for him, he pounces first.  We laugh about it.  Well, he laughs and I chuckle to the best of my ability.
So assuming this will happen again this year, I set out on a trek to find something for him and along the way wanted to share some great ideas with you.  I needed to start planning this early so that if I need to make a last minute change, I will have enough time.
Below, you will find some ideas I am looking at for my husband.  He is more of an outdoors kind of guy and so this genre of a gift guide suits him best.
Here are some unique gifts for the career oriented Dad:

Last but not least, here is a gift guide for the sports lover in your life.  There are some ideas in here that cross over to the career gift guide as well.

I hope some of my ideas help you plan what you are gifting for Father’s Day.  So far, I know one thing for sure that my husband will be getting come this Father’s Day.  I will make him his favorite Bourbon Pecan Pie.  It is absolutely out of this world delicious!
I will share that in my next post…

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Work Travel: Exploring New Places Alone

One of the benefits of some careers is the ability to travel for work.  I love work travel for many reasons.  That’s not to say I would want to travel 100% of the time, but I do like to travel about 25% of the time.  For my family, this number works for us.

Family Benefits

I love to experience different places, cities, and try regional restaurants.  I love exploring and taking in new sights.  It is also not to my expense so that is also helpful.  I view it as scouting for future family vacations and places to put on my bucket list for when I have more time to spend in an area.  Often times, I will FaceTime my family and give them a room tour, share my meals and usually bring home a little treat.  I try to share with them as much as I can so they do not feel as though they are missing out.  Technology is a wonderful thing!

Traveling for work allows everyone to develop independence.  Especially the kids.  I hear countless stories from coworkers whose children cry when they leave.  Their children are afraid of the parent not coming back or they feel abandoned.  My kids know I will be back and that I am working.  We talk about this alot and they understand it to be part of life.  So whether I am gone for a day or for a week, they know it is temporary. Ultimately, I get “me time” while my daughter gets ‘Daddy time’.

They also understand that schedules may be flipped.  We all get a better understanding of the various job roles around the house and this fosters a better understanding of everyone’s importance.  Like when my husband had to attend school’s open house alone or when I have to remember to take out the garbage.  It gives an appreciation for the family as a unit and for everyone as an individual.  It ultimately leads to a better balance for you as well.

Work Benefits

There are times on a work trip where there may be not much time to explore.  This is especially true if there are dinner events and meals scheduled.  It doesn’t mean, however, that it needs to be all work.  If there is any personal time allowed, try to explore.  The only two rules I abide by is 1) always be on time to any scheduled events and 2) do not overdo any alcohol consumption.  It seems silly to even write but I have seen many people not know their alcohol limits and pay for it both personally and professionally.

Prior to leaving for the trip, I will often check for things to do in that area or restaurants I may want to try.  Choose places close to the meeting center as so that traveling to explore is under 20 minutes each way.  Think “Uber-able”.  Yes, I made up that word but you get the idea!  If your meeting involves anyone from the local area, this is a prime networking opportunity.  If they live there, you can ask for their input or, better yet, ask if they would like to accompany you.  It is a great way to build relationships and foster collaboration.

Many times, I may take an earlier flight to the meeting or come back on a later flight to accommodate some exploring.  For example, when I have an afternoon meeting, I will fly out the night before and explore in the AM.  This guarantees I will be at the meeting on time and allows me to see a few sites.

Site seeing and finding out about a local area also gives you some great topics of conversation.  There have been so many times when facilitators or meeting hosts will ask “What did you do last night?” and the resounding response is “Sat in my room and worked”.  Boring.  I, on the other hand, will talk about the Museums I visited, the restaurants I tried and the shopping centers I explored.  It makes the travel so much more interesting and in turn makes me more interesting and helps me build my network.  It also shows independence, inquisitiveness, and ability to think outside the box and be confident wherever I am.

The next time you are able to do some traveling for work, take that opportunity.  With a little forethought, you can get both personal and professional benefits from it!

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My Favorite Notebooks for the Office

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Ever since I was little, I used to love trying out different notebooks and different methods to take notes.  Loose leaf, stitched, hard cover, or soft cover there are so many different types to choose from.  This is a great thing because we all have different tastes.  Sometimes those tastes change depending on the task at hand.  Regardless of the style you choose, the only thing that matters is that it works for you.  Here, I want to share what I look for in a notebook for work.  I specify work because these are not ones I use for personal use.  That may be a separate blog at a later date.

You will notice that the notebooks I choose for work are usually leather and are a darker color.  They also may not be notebooks in the traditional sense but may be a system.  You may also notice that I will not use any notebook for work if it has any sayings (other than my name) or any kind of image on the cover.  I like to keep it pretty plain on the outside for work.  That’s not to say that plain is boring.  A notebook or note taking system with great paper combined with the ability to add-on accessories can be a way to personalize it.  These subtle elements allow me to make it mine yet still allow me to feel comfortable bringing it to any meeting.

#1: Markings Soft Leatherette Journal by C.R. Gibson

I have had this particular notebook/journal for about 4 years now.  It is not the notebook I bring to meetings but it is a notebook that I use for work to jot down quick notes, brain dumps, phone messages, and when I just want to write down any work related honey do lists.  I love this notebook because it has a good hand feel to it.  By that, I mean it is buttery soft.  The soft cover is not so soft that it is flimsy, but yet it is not so hard that it is rigid when you are carrying it.  Weird but real hard covers are a total pet peeve of mine.  Basically, it bends nicely when placed into my work bag.  The size is perfect for travel.  It measures approximately 8″ long  x 6″ wide when closed.  The paper is a creamy beige with college-ruled lines.  They are not numbered.  The notebook comes with an elastic to keep it closed and a single ribbon to mark your place.  The paper is good quality with some minor shadowing from various inks.  It is not enough to dissuade me from using or not recommending.

#2:  Travelers Notebook

These are also known as TNs and they are becoming more and more mainstream.  There are two main parts to the TN.  There is the cover and then the inserts.  The particular cover I have is from a company called Chic Sparrow.  It is the Deluxe Chocolate Creme in the personal size.  It has four elastics to hold four different inserts.  This particular style of leather is just heaven in my palm.  It’s soft and supple and becomes more and more so as I use it.  It also smells amazing as any high quality leather should.  With all of the types and styles of inserts available, these TNs can be customized many different ways.  You can add monthly, weekly or daily calendars.  Notebooks of dot-grid, lined, blank, or even graph paper.  Paper weights and qualities of varying degrees.  The options are endless.

The draw to a TN for me was my ability to have my work life and home life combined into one place.  I  have my daughter’s schedule in one insert, food shopping and meal planning in the second, work calendar in the third insert and then the last insert is the notebook I use in meetings.  The drawback to this particular TN is the size.  As my daughter and I are getting busier and busier and my eyesight is getting older, I am finding that this is not able to easily fit everything.  I am quite verbose in my planning and the size limitation is something I cannot get around.  The beauty of a TN is that I can replace the inserts and re-purpose the system into something else that will fit my needs.  I just have to go shopping!


#3:  Leuchtturm 1917 Medium A5 Hardcover

This particular notebook is famous for being the notebook of choice for those who Bullet Journal ( aka BUJO).  I chose an A5 size and with a hard cover.  The paper is high quality and, like the TN inserts, come in a variety of styles such as hard cover, soft cover, graph, dot-grid, lined, and blank papers.  They all have an elastic closure and ribbons for placement markers.  These particular pages are also numbered and come with a pre-printed index sheet so that you can be extremely organized.  The whole concept of Bullet Journaling can be many, many blog posts long.  There are even multiple websites, stores, and YouTube channels dedicated to this topic.  For me, I just liked the notebook.  The paper quality was terrific for my work notes and task lists.  It was a perfect size to carry for meetings and it was available in black.

As a side note, I did attempt the Bullet Journal style of note taking and realized pretty quickly that it is not for me.  I found it is too structured for my brain and that makes it difficult to capture all of the details I feel I need to capture when in a meeting.  I was concentrating too much on using the correct formats and spacing that I was missing important information.  So I ditched the structured BUJO note taking style and reverted quickly to using it as a notebook.

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#4 Levenger Circa Leather Foldover Notebook – Letter Size

As you can see from the list so far, I prefer a lot of smaller sized notebooks.  They are just generally easier to carry around in a purse or work bag.  I do, however, realize sometimes we need to have a larger size available.  So, with a few projects coming up, I really wanted to find something that could provide me with more paper real estate.  Also I needed it to hold some additional papers that I need to reference.  That’s when I stumbled upon the Levenger Circa Foldover Notebook.  This particular one is a disc bound system so it provides endless possibilities as far as organization.

Circa is very much an upscale version of the Staples Arc disc system.  Both of the concepts are the same.  The difference for me is that Levenger has beautiful full grain leather options which you can have imprinted.  The discs come in a variety of materials and sizes and are all very sturdy.  These notebooks would make a really amazing gift for any executive or new grad.  Additionally, the paper quality is smooth and creamy.  The Circa system has a large variety of options including calendars, project planners, lists, and there are even special punches so you can add your own papers.  This is exactly what I need for my larger projects.


One of the great things about notebooks and note taking systems is that there is such a variety available.  Covers, colors, papers, and styles vary so that there is something for everyone and for every need.  What works for me now, may not work for me in the future.  Or it may work just fine but I want to try something new and that’s okay.

So tell me below what are some of your favorite notebooks or systems to use and why?

 

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