Did you ever wake up and think to yourself: When I leave my child to go to work, do the lessons I try to teach them and show them get through? I often think about this very subject during many early mornings. I know that my older son is certainly on the right track but I was home a lot more with him as he was growing up. My daughter is much younger and has seen me work away from the home through out most of her life. This includes long hours, plentiful work trips, and an MBA to boot. She is growing up in a completely different generation from her brother. She actually makes him feel old!
Realistically, we all know that time is limited with all things- even people. It is a precious commodity that once is gone, you cannot get back. Sometimes, before getting out of bed, I lie there hoping that I have instilled important life lessons to both of my kids. Especially my youngest who is still in her formative years. The other week, I had a business trip and I didn’t see her for almost 24 hours. Come to think of it, I didn’t even have time to talk to her. It was a few days later when I was contemplating work and family that I come across proof that somehow, in some way she hears me. My daughter is listening- even when she looks like she’s tuned me out.
I found her Boogie Board that she occasionally uses for notes and drawing when paper is not convenient or easily found. These are great on trips or in the car. It is essentially an electric piece of paper that erases with the touch of a button. What I read on that that board, honestly makes it all worth it and reinforces the path I am on. Ella had divided the board into two categories: Weekly Goals and Key.
Ella’s Weekly Goals:
- Eat Healthy
- Exercise More
- Make Better Decisions
- Be Happy
- Be Responsible
- Be Kind
What else is there to write? She sums it up nicely. Not only does she share how to become a better person, but also what it takes to get there. This little late night writing means the world to me. As working Moms, sometimes we are our own worst enemy when it comes to wondering if we are doing the right thing by our kids. Think about it. Every morning we bring our kids to school or to daycare and we entrust them to others for over eight hours a day! By the time we Moms get home, its supper and bedtime. Have we done enough to instill anything of ourselves into our kids?
It is time that we start deleting these negative comments in our head. Kids are sponges in the way they absorb everything around them. They see the way we handle ourselves through various situations, how we treat people we interact with, and they benefit from this exposure. They also benefit from those they are around while we are at work. Whether, they are at school, daycare or with a trusted family member or friend. The saying is true: it does take a village- the right village. I am so glad that my daughter is exposed to different people and experiences. She understands compassion and empathy, fortitude, gratitude, and possesses an openness to new experiences, people, and adventures.
The next time thoughts come into your head about working and not being there every minute with your children, delete it. Do not give those thoughts credence. Instead concentrate on all of the great opportunities your are exposing to your children. Yes, time goes by quickly so we have to make the most of what we have with them and trust that our children gain so much from us- even when we are not looking.
Now go ahead and do as Ella says and “Be Happy”.